The family is against society; the family is against human relationship as a whole. You know, it is like living in one part of a big house, in one little room, and making an extraordinary thing of that one little room, which is the family. The family has only importance in relation tothe whole of the house. As that one room is in relation to the whole of the house, so is the family in relation to the whole of human existence.
Where There Is Dependency, Attachment, There Is No Love
Psychologically, then, our relationships are based on dependence, and that is why there is fear. The problem is not how not to depend, but just to see the fact that we do depend.
Don't you want to find out if it is possible to live in this world richly, fully, happily, creatively without the destructive drive of ambition, without competition? Don't you want to know how to live so that your life will not destroy another or cast a shadow across his path?
One of the things that prevents the sense of being secure is comparison. When you are compared with somebody else in your studies or in your games or in your looks, you have a sense of anxiety, a sense of fear, a sense of uncertainty. So, as we were discussing yesterday with some of the teachers, it is very important to eliminate in our school this sense of comparison, this giving grades or marks,and ultimately the fear of examinations...
The ignorant man is not the unlearned, but he who does not know himself, and the learned man is stupid when he relies on books/ on knowledge, and on authority to give him understanding. Understanding comes only through selfknowledge, which is awareness of one's total psychological process. Thus education, in the true sense, is the understanding of oneself, for it is within each one of us that the whole of existence is gathered.